Over the years I have heard the term self love, seen the hashtags allover social media when one takes themselves to dinner, an ice cream treat or a Mani pedi, however with all this I never really knew what self love is. So I did what every millennial does; I googled it and among other definitions one by Eric Fromm stood out:
psychologist and social philosopher Erich Fromm, proposed that loving oneself is different from being arrogant, conceited or egocentric, meaning that instead caring about oneself and taking responsibility for oneself.
Going with Eric’s definition, I think self love goes deeper.
Self love means loving yourself enough to do whatever is necessary for your well being. It is not only limited to the easy and enjoyable like Mani pedis but could also include;
Taking time to communicate with the people you love, working hard on those relationships that matter to you because let’s face it the relationships we are in be it your siblings, friends or significant others contribute to the quality of life you live.
Digging deep to know who you are and what you stand for; so many of us don’t know who we are, we are mere reflections of the people surrounding us, our likes and dislikes change according to who we are with. Love your self enough to know what you like, its okay if your don’t understand the hype on chocolate. Know what you stand for; if dishonesty irks you, say it. stand tall for the values you have chosen. Love yourself to know who you are.
Choose peace of mind, we find ourselves in situations where the choice that gives you peace is the hardest to make, these are times when we have to make this choice . Contrary to what you think, the world won’t stop rotating on it’s axis. You will be glad you chose you.
Those tasks you have been putting off, go do them. Just to spare yourself the unpleasantness of so many pending tasks. You feel much lighter and happier when you have done all you are meant to do. That sense of accomplishment or achievement is a huge part of loving yourself.
Lastly, love yourself enough to grow. Growth is not an easy process but if you choose to grow to will be much easier than the world forcing you to grow; because at some point it will. So embrace growth, the process is not easy but persevere through it. It will bring you great joy to know you are a better person than you were yesterday.
Self love is not limited to the above, constantly ask yourself if the what you are doing is pro you. For yourself, go through the hard stuff with a smile, you will end in better and much easier place.
Choose you! Love you!